Saturday, September 26, 2009

Encouragement... Motivation... and You.

Today was a somewhat significant day in my weight loss journey. As you can tell from my last post, things aren't going the greatest for me right now. And I have to say that each and every one of your comments meant alot and really helped me get my head a little closer to being screwed on straight.

But the comment that struck me the most was from my WW leader, Ned. Check it out:
Finding motivation can be a difficult thing. As humans we move toward what we are comfortable with and away from things we are uncomfortable with. ... You just need to put one foot in front of the other and you will be on your way before you know it.

You are an inspiration to all of us in the meeting room every Saturday and you can always turn to our meeting for help whenever you might need it. Maybe it is time the meeting gave something to you this week in whatever form will help you the most. We are here for you no matter what so lean on us to help you get through this tough spell. Keep the faith!

Wasn't that sweet? But it didn't stop there. This morning in the WW meeting, he took a moment to specifically ask if there was anyone who wanted to share any struggles they've been going through lately. This is something I've never heard him do before. I knew he was talking about me. I just didn't feel comfortable airing my "negative" experiences like that. I just felt like I'd be a wet blanket if I started talking about my motivation problems.

But guess what, the topic of the meeting just happened to be goal setting and motivation. Can you believe it?! Exactly what I needed. I don't know if my leader did that on purpose or if it was a wonderful coincidence. He talked about how hard it is to find motivation sometimes and no matter how bad we might want to lose weight, sometimes the motivation just doesn't come. It was like he was talking just to me, although I think he was intentionally not looking at me so I wouldn't feel more uncomfortable.

He talked about how we can lean on each other and the meeting leaders to help us through the hard parts of our weight loss journey and how we're not alone when we can't find the motivation to continue on. He was saying how we're all a family and we all want each other to succeed and that if any of us are struggling for us to lean on each other to make it through.

I tell you, I started tearing up right in the middle of it all. He really spoke to my heart. It was exactly what I needed to hear.

I went up after class and gave him a big hug and told him thanks for helping me get my head back in the game.

Now, I'm not saying that was a miracle cure all, I'm still struggling with finding the motivation to eat right and exercise, but at least now I know I'm not in this alone and I have people who really care about me and want to help me however they can.

I mean you guys too! You guys help me so much by leaving me those encouraging comments. You have no idea how much I pour over every comment you leave. Even if it's a short note just to say you understand or you're proud of me. Every comment you leave inspires me to keep going.

So thanks, Ned. And thanks to you who are reading this blog and encouraging me to continue on. I still have a long way to go. I mean, I've only lost 2.5 pounds this past year and I still have to make it down to 145 as my ultimate goal.

Right now, I can be honest and tell you, I gained almost 10 pounds last week. (I cringed as I typed that.) I didn't want to admit that to anyone. I didn't weigh in this morning (took a no-weigh-in-pass). But I'll face the music next week. I'm not making any huge promises to myself about eating right or exercising. I'm just going to take this one day at a time. One baby step at a time and keep finding encouragement in what I've heard from you guys and keep going.

I'll find the motivation. It'll come. Heck, maybe I've already got it I just don't realize it yet. But I won't give up. I will make it to goal. And I will keep this weight off no matter whether I ever find motivation or not.

Thanks guys! I love you!!!

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8 comments:

Jack Sh*t, Gettin' Fit said...

It's scary how fast we can undo all our hard work when we teeter a little on that slippery slope.

At least you've managed to catch yourself before too much damage was done. Here's hoping you can right the ship and get back to where you were.
You can definitely do this!

Diana said...

We are so much alike! I haven't lost 100 pounds yet, but I had lost 80 then gained a little and it was only 76, then up, then down, then up. Crazy! In the last year I think I've only lost about 10 pounds.

Losing motivation. I sure can relate. I think I've written about that a couple dozen times the last several months.

It comes and it goes. Mine is back in place for the moment, but I never know when it'll go on vacation. :)

No magic words for you...other than, hang it there.

Roxie said...

I've decided that it may be unreasonable for me to expect that my progress will be linear. I bounce around ten pounds or so (or more sometimes). And I get frustrated with it.

Sometimes it helps if I think back to when I was at my heaviest and if I asked myself then "How would you like to weigh (insert current weight)? I know that I would have cried with relief to weigh this. So it helps me get a little happier with where I am TODAY which certainly helps me get through tomorrow a little easier.

That being said, the problem of motivation doesn't GET SOLVED. It comes and it goes. It's motivation, not cruise control. It's an issue that must be dealt with time and time again. And I find I'm much more successful if I do so from a positive mindset.

Didn't mean to write a treatise. Glad you got such a lift from your meeting. Support and understanding of each other and ourselves goes a long, long way.

Shelley said...

Isn't it interesting how, just when you need it, you are getting motivation and support from all around? I love how life works like that...and I know you can do this - I'm rooting for you, Cara!

spunkysuzi said...

I'm so glad that your meeting helped you! Sometimes something like that is exactly what we need.

MaryFran said...

I'm so glad that the meeting was presented in exactly the right way for it to get through to you in a positive way!

Motivation is such a crazy thing! But I will say.....it really sounds like you have your head in it right now!!! Take it and run with it! And as you see positive results, you're motivation will bloom and grow even more!

Lake Mary WWLeader said...

I am so glad that Saturday's meeting was helpful for you. The meeting topic was a coincidence, but I did try to give my delivery a personal twist without singling you out. I am glad that I was able to provide some help and will repeat my standing offer to help your weight-loss effort in any way that I realistically can. The steps you have to take may be yours, but you will never take them alone as long as you are a part of our group. Keep taking those steps!

Joy Winner-or-Whiner said...

Accountability is something isn't it? When my clients try to run from it, I tell them to fear fear and not accountability.